I remember seeing a friend whom I had worked with for years, preparing to transition from one chapter of his life, into a brand new one.
The ‘old life’ had become comfortable, safe, known. He had spent countless hours, days, months, years making it so.
Now was the time to step into the Great Unknown, and while he had done lots of preparatory homework to assist in this major life change,
there was the one thing I could tell bothered him: the preparation didn’t erase the fact that he still stood on an unknown path.
I recall our last ‘in-person’ conversation the morning of his flight out. He’d spent the night packing, took his wife to dinner, came home and slept.
When he told me this, I thought: ‘Good, that sounds about right.’
Yet, when I saw him the next morning, I knew something was out of joint, B. looked terrified, haunted even!
I asked him how he was doing. He responded honestly, something I always appreciate with our talks.
Overnight, his mind had filled with worry, doubt, fear.
The typical worries of someone looking so far into the future for clues, everything in front of him stops making sense.
What if I don’t find the ‘right’ job? I’ll need to find an apartment when we get there, how?
B. had a list of fears longer than my arm and those fears were eating away at his peace of mind. I imagine his wife wasn’t too pleased either!
I saw an easy solution, one I didn’t hesitate to share with him.
I suggested he ‘be himself’. Really, that’s it. I suggested he be himself because any time I’d seen him being wholly present
dealing with the ‘here and now’, applying what he knew worked to a situation, he thrived.
“In other words”, I said. “You are enough.”
It didn’t take B. long to get it or to visibly relax. That he relaxed, made me relax too. I knew he’d be OK.
The flower in this post?
It reminded me of B.
It reminded me of all the times I didn’t think I was ‘enough’, only to find out later … yeah, I am… enough.
I like them because they never seem to need that reminder either. They show up when they’re suppose to
and they do what they came here to do, BE BEAUTIFUL and AMAZING…
Imagine if we all did that? Found our own unique, cool ways to do THAT?
Each morning, standing before the mirror, or simply closing our eyes and saying:
‘It’s You, the One and Only!’